Soon I’ll be 60 years old. My children will be all grown, and my voice will not have the power behind it as it did when I was 30 years old. If only I could go back to my younger self, and tell her to not worrying about failing. What do I wish I could tell my younger self? Well there are many things, but above all else, I would tell her the key is not to fear failure, but to learn faster than you fail.
On my way to Mimi’s school, my finger hit the music icon on my phone, and on came this song entitled “7 Years” by Lukas Graham. It was too real for me. In the 3 minutes and 59 seconds that is this song, I thought back about my life. The older I got the more fearful I became. The less risks I was willing to take. The truth is I have young children, and I am too afraid to face the uncertainty that comes with following my dreams. They depend on me to do the responsible thing. Before long, my dreams were soon a thing of the past, and all but forgotten.
As I reflected on the path that I was on, I realize that the worst that can happen is I fail. Following my dreams doesn’t mean it isn’t the responsible thing to do either. There is some level of uncertainty, but at least I won’t look back as I am today having regrets for some of the decisions I have made. I don’t want to regret not jumping at opportunities, regretting not taking that chance on something or with someone. I don’t want to have regrets about not letting go of people either. It goes much deeper than regrets though. This is a journey, and while we are told we only have one shot at it, the reality is, every second we are alive is an opportunity to make a choice that our future selves will be happy about.
The key is to recognize that if I fail, then I must fail fast and learn faster. I can’t let the remainder of my life be directed and governed by my fears. Once I was 20 years old. I left my home country in search of a better life. I moved to a place where I had no family or friends. The alternative was to stay in a life that was good, but as we all know a good life is the biggest detriment to a great life. I was fearless of failure. I was a force to be reckoned with. That is Neely.
So what will I do now? Well, I believe I have a choice to make. Continue on the same path… the road well-traveled, the beaten path, or I go down the road less traveled. I know what advice I would give my children, and so as they say… I should eat my own dog food.
I hope you stick around to see which path I choose!
For you listening pleasure.